5 Key Points To Consider When Contemplating a Divorce.
Updated: Dec 8, 2017
1. Educate yourself
Divorce is not only emotionally complicated, it is also legally complicated.
So, educate yourself with the process of divorce! There are several books out there that give
you an overview of divorce in California. And of course, there is always the Internet! However,
beware- you may be able to get some education on the Internet, but just because it is on the
Internet does not mean that it is true! A good and reputable source is the court website. Every
county has a website and on the website, you can get information regarding what your options
are in getting a divorce, the forms that are needed, and other important information. Another
way to educate yourself is to consult a divorce attorney. Most attorneys nowadays offer a free
consultation, so make use of it! A consultation is a good opportunity for you to get high level
information from a person who is specialized in the field of divorce. If you decide to go with an
attorney, then you already will know which one to choose!
2. Mentally prepare yourself
Divorce can be a long and grueling process. In my experience, I’ve
had clients tell me that they just want it over as fast as possible. Even some of the “simple”
divorces can take years! Of course, if you have children, then it complicates things even more.
Some days, you will probably feel like the process of getting a divorce will never end. So, it is
important to be mentally prepared and remind yourself that although it will take some time, it
will eventually be over. I promise!
3. Have a support system
Due to the emotional and sometimes financial stress a divorce can
bring, it is imperative that you have someone to talk to and confide in. Of course, make sure you
talk to someone who you can trust and can depend on to pick up that late night call or text. This
can be a family member, a good friend, or even a therapist.
4. Trust your “gut”
There is a reason why you have a “gut feeling” about things. It’s your mind’s
way of giving you a little hint that something is wrong. So, don’t be afraid to follow your gut!
Chances are if you are thinking about divorce, it’s something that has crossed your mind several
times before. So, don’t be afraid to act on it.
5. Have a nest egg
The possibility of being alone and needing to depend only on yourself can be
very scary. So, prepare yourself and have a nest egg in place. You will need money not only to
hire an attorney, but also to move out and get a place of your own. Although, spousal and child
support can help you with your upcoming expenses, it is important that you still have some
money set aside in the case that the support does not start right away.